• Babies,  Social Changes

    Promises

    Promises I hear it in the way you speak, the words you use, the tone you choose. The anger, disgust, contempt are like spikes in my soft skin. I have made you mad, again. It seems I am built defective, wired wrong a mixture of thoughts, ideas, opinions, and hopes misfiring daily. Then, you smile and my entire body lights up. There is a warmth that surrounds my heart cradled like my infant body once was when you were ecstatic to meet me. But it doesn’t last long. The more familiar feeling of being cold and alone replaces the warmth, like an ice bucket dumped on a struggling flame. It’s…

  • Living with Children,  Parenting

    25 Ways Joyful Families Operate

    We all long for a joyful life. To be in the company of people who are happy and peaceful is nirvana. We create visions in our heads of what a joyful life looks like then we proceed to Pin everything that meets that perception. A tapestry stitched together with squares of fabric cut from old clothing that your children no longer wear, but you can’t part with. PIN The premiere list of books your children must read by the time they are 10 or they will never succeed in life. PIN Places to see the night sky that are so remote it will take you days to get there, there…

  • Living with Children,  Parenting

    Creating Peace around the Palate: Understanding “Picky” Eaters

    Food is the great connector–the center of gatherings, celebrations, services, and parties. We bake to show our appreciation. We cook to support an ailing family member or neighbor. Entire industries are built around growing, preparing, delivering, packaging, decorating, and gifting foods.  There is such an abundance in our country that billions of dollars worth of food is tossed out or left on the ground to rot each year.  In our heart of hearts, we know this is wrong. We wish it wasn’t this way and we do our part to stock the local pantries or donate to organizations that feed the hungry. With people literally dying to eat, at home and…

  • Living with Children,  Parenting

    Understanding Limit Pushing

    “Respecting children means understanding their stage of development, not reacting to their age-appropriate behavior as if they are our peers.” If you believe children are ‘out to get us’, that they are misbehaving just to make our lives miserable you probably need a big break from caring for kids, but also a healthy dose of understanding how children operate.  If a child in your care is misbehaving, chances are he is trying to get your attention. There is almost always an underlying reason for inappropriate or out of line behavior. One reason could be your expectations. Are you expecting too much from your toddler? Are you ignoring their pleas for help by punishing instead…