• Living with Children,  Parenting

    Does the Truth Really Hurt?

    Dear Children, Speak your truth. Say it boldly. Say it with your eyes, your demeanor, and your inside voice, if necessary, but say it. Do not shrink or dull yourself because someone else feels uncomfortable in your light. That is on them. Either they need to put on sunglasses or find another spot to inhabit. This world is full of half-truths and placating relationships, neither support the optimal development of those involved. While I encourage you to interact with others using your best judgment, which includes knowing when to talk and when to listen, when to step up and when to back down, whatever you choose, do so with your…

  • Parenting,  Personal

    Signs. Signs. Everywhere Are Signs.

    I woke up before 5:30 this morning to check my daughter’s blood sugar. Well, I set my alarm to wake up but seems I have some kind of superpower and can wake up within minutes of my actual alarm going off. What kind of witchcraft is that? I spoke softly to her, letting her know it was time to check her blood sugar, gently grabbed a hand while she stayed in complete sleep mode then pricked her finger. She was in range, but on the lower end. It’s possible she may still descend so I reset my alarm for 7:00. I got back in bed and since I was feeling…

  • Living with Children,  Parenting,  Social Changes

    Guilt is a Messenger? Yes.

    ”Guilt, the sense of anguish that we have fallen short of our own standards, is the guardian of our goodness.” In a 1983 article written by Jane E. Brody for the New York Times entitled, Guilt: Or Why it’s Good to Feel Bad she reviews the work of Dr. Willard Gaylin, a psychotherapist, who made the above assertion about guilt. “Guardian of our goodness” may seem a bit melodramatic, but I see where he’s coming from. Guilt, like anger, fear, frustration, worry, or joy, is a messenger. Another emotion firing off a signal, and in guilt’s case, signaling that something is counter to our goodness. The tricky part is to peel back…

  • Babies,  Books,  Learning,  Parenting,  Teens

    Raising Humans? 7 Books Every Child Wants you to Read

      It is extraordinary that the most important job in the world, raising a child, is an untrained position. -Richard Grossman, Ph.D.   When I was around 11 or 12 I found several books my Mom had been reading that caused me feelings of worry, confusion, and possibly even a little panic. The exact titles escape me, but they were on topics about children and drug use. When I realized she was reading books to understand her own child, one of my brothers who had been in a wrestling match with life since he was born, I was struck with this uncomfortable truth that parents quite possibly have no idea what…

  • Living with Children,  Parenting

    But Mom! When Disagreements Happen

    Disagreements with your children will happen. It’s not a matter of if, but when. The question really is, will you be ready? And I don’t mean ready as in: You will have all the right answers. You will walk away the victor. You will prove to them that your experience and knowledge surpasses theirs. You will stand your ground. If you come to disagreements with the attitude that your status as a parent automatically qualifies you as top dog then you are likely missing huge opportunities to get to know your child and creating disconnection in the process.  Just because you have some life mileage behind you does not mean you…